•Emotional Dependency or Emotional Responsibility
by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Emotional dependency means getting one’s good feelings from outside oneself. It means needing to get filled from outside rather than from within. Who or what do you believe is responsible for your emotional wellbeing?
There are numerous forms of emotional dependency:
Dependence on substances, such as food, drugs, or alcohol, to fill emptiness and take away pain.
Dependency on processes such as spending, gambling, or TV, also to fill emptiness and take away...
•Is It Okay to Spoil Your Kids?
Is It Okay to Spoil Your Kids? by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as the author resource box at the end is included. Notification of publication would be appreciated.Title: Is It Okay to Spoil Your Kids?Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2003 by Margaret PaulWeb Address: http://www.innerbonding.comWord Count: 711Category: ParentingIS IT OKAY TO SPOIL...
•Are You Addicted to Your Children?
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by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Is it possible to be using our children addictively?
Anything that we use to get love, avoid pain, and fill up inner emptiness can become an addiction – even our children! If your children are your whole life – if you don’t have a strong spiritual connection with a personal source of love and guidance, as well as other relationships and interests that you are passionate about, you might be using your children to fill an empty place within you.
If you don’t have...
•Are You Love Addicted?
Imagine that you have a little child - a son or daughter, but that you are only 15 years old. How are you going to feel about this child? There is a good possibility that you will feel that this child is a burden, limiting your freedom. You will likely feel that the child is too demanding, needing too much from you. You may want to go out and have fun and not be tied down to this child.
Is this how you feel about your own inner child - your own feelings and needs? Does it feel burdensome to...
•Recovery From Addictions, Part 2
(This is Part 2 of a 5-part series on addiction).
In Part 1 of this series of articles, I defined substance and process addictions, and described the four major false beliefs that underlie most addictions:
1. I can’t handle my pain. 2. I am unworthy and unlovable. 3. Others are my source of love. 4. I can have control over how others feel about me and treat me.
This article addresses the first of these beliefs, and goes into the process of learning to manage your pain. Learning to manage...
•What Are Your Feelings Telling You?
Our feelings are an incredible instant feedback system regarding what is good for us and what is bad for us.
For example, our physically painful feelings let us know that something needs attending to regarding our physical body. If you put your hand on a hot stove, the burning feeling immediately tells you to remove your hand. If you didn’t get the pain, you could badly your hand. So the instant pain is vitally important information for your wellbeing.
The same is true of our emotional...
•Addiction to Complaining
by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as the author resource box at the end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.For other articles which you are free to use, see http://www.innerbonding.comTitle: Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2005 by Margaret PaulURL: http://www.innerbonding.comWord Count: 723Category:...
•What Causes Holiday Stress?
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by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
The holidays are supposed to be a time of celebration when friends and families get together to share food, fun, gifts, and love. They are supposed to be a time of giving, caring and connection when we celebrate important and meaningful events.
Why, then, are they often so stressful and what can we do to make them more fun and peaceful?
Changing the holiday season from stressful to peaceful depends upon one thing: INTENT. Your intent is whatever is most...
•Rediscovering Love and Intimacy
by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Wendy started counseling with me because Terence, her husband of 14 years, had just expressed to her that he wanted to end their relationship. Wendy, terrified of being alone, was panicked. Within a few minutes of speaking with her in a phone session, I understood exactly the underlying cause of their relationship problems.
Wendy, coming from a family where she experienced much neglect, had a deep abandonment fear. In her family, Wendy had learned to be a...
•The Legacy of Sexual Abuse
by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.The following article is offered for free use in your ezine, print publication or on your web site, so long as the author resource box at the end is included, with hyperlinks. Notification of publication would be appreciated.For other articles which you are free to use, see http://www.innerbonding.comTitle: Author: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.E-mail: mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com Copyright: © 2004 by Margaret PaulURL: http://www.innerbonding.comWord Count: 837Category:...
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