•The One Thing You Must Add to Your Day
by Susan Dunn, MA Psychology, The EQ CoachAs we close the gap between physical, mental and emotional health, realizing that they all influence one another, it’s becoming more evident that attitude makes a difference. It isn’t so much what’s happening, as how we feel about what’s happening. I’m reminded of a visit to my obstetrician some years ago, when pregnant with my second child and delighted. He told me how nice it was to have someone so happy in his office. “49% of my patients are...
•How to Cope When Someone You Love is Deployed
by Susan Dunn, The EQ CoachWhen we must part with a loved one, we have physical and emotional reactions beyond our control. Our emotional intelligence skills can help us manage them. Having someone you love deployed is extremely stressful. PROTEST-DESPAIR Newborns separated from their mothers show us the extremes of protest-despair behavior. When the infant is separated, the body reacts, pumping out stress hormones that affect the nervous system and muscle groups. Cortisol, the 'stress'...
•The Top 10 Rights You Don’t Have
by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach1.To have your needs met.No matter how legitimate you feel they are, or how obligated you feel the other party is to you, it isn’t a requirement, and sometimes isn’t even possible. Learn to meet your own needs!2.To feel good about everything all the time.You can survive negative emotions (they don’t last long), and taking your emotional temperature all the time is counter-productive.3.To be the center of the universe.There are always other...
•The Benefits of Emotional Intelligence
by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence CoachWhile we all, at some level, understand that we’re motivated by pain and pleasure, it’s amazing how we can learn, especially in our Western culture, to ignore the concomitant fact that moving toward pleasure makes us feel good, and is good for our health, while moving toward pain does the opposite. Yes, “no pain no gain” has its place. It fits for cognitive learning experiences, like struggling to learn a new language, or new theory; and...
•After Christmas Letdown?
? by Susan Dunn, MA, certified Emotional Intelligence Coach“You gotta pay the price,” one of my clients is always telling me. She’s referring to what is a law of physics, and also the way things work – what goes up must come down.The higher your Christmas, the more exciting, chaotic and tumultuous, the more likely you’ll be tumbling down just as far. Why? According to psychneuroimmunologist (big word meaning the effect of brain and emotions on health, i.e., immunology), Paul Pearsall, Ph.D.,...
•EQ--for the Agony and the Ecstasy
by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, THE EQ COACH“The Agony and the Ecstasy” is the title of a novel about Michelangelo, by Irving Stone. When I encountered the title in middle school, I decided to read the book to find out what “agony” and “ecstasy” might be like, states of existence apparently available to uber-humans like Michelangelo. I was sure I had not experienced them. It may have been a misperception, or it may have been a vocabulary problem. I’m now a grandmother, and I now know...
•Ways to Increase Your Personal Power through Emotional Intelligence
by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach & ConsultantPersonal Power is an Emotional Intelligence (EQ) competency you’re probably familiar with by another name. It’s your sense of being able to handle yourself and your life. It’s the opposite of the “victim” position, where you feel helpless and hopeless. Instead, when you’ve developed your Personal Power, you feel confidant to help yourself, and to ask for help when you need it, and you feel positive about outcomes. You are more...
•Just How Bad IS That Person You Work For?
? by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach & ConsultantSince I work in Emotional Intelligence, I get emails about some pretty awful managers (as well as colleagues, subordinates and peers). Work takes up a lot of our life, and misery at work is chronically stressful. The questions often amount to, “Can I ‘fix’ this if I learn more Emotional Intelligence?”The answer is “yes,” but probably not in the way you’re thinking. Can you make a nasty person nice by using your EQ skills, such as...
•The Top 10 Helpful Things to Tell Someone Who's in a Difficult Transition
by Susan Dunn1. You're changing, and things around you are changing, but the Core You is still there. 2. Nothing lasts forever. 3. Think back on all the successful transitions you've had -- adolescence, first job, marriage, moving. 4. We don't fear change, we fear the unknown. 5. You don't have to make a decision right now. 6. Feel, felt, found. I know how you feel ... I felt that way ... here's what I found. 7. Study people who have successfully maneuvered the transition you're...
•The Top Ten Things I Learned from Mister Rogers
by Susan Dunn, M.A.Please feel free to distribute and reprint as long as bio line is included intact.Mister Rogers makes everyone feel special and valued, and he's one of my heroes.1. You can never go down, never go down, never go down the drain. When life can involve divorce, layoffs, losing a child, moving 2 weeks before your baby's due and you have a toddler and a dog with a new litter of puppies, working full-time and being a single-parent, or starting a new career at 55, it's good to...
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